Last night my wife and I sat and watched “Love Worth Finding” on television. This is the television ministry of Dr. Adrian Rogers. He is a wonderful preacher and Bible teacher. He said that in order for a marriage to work you need two things. They are foundation and flexibility.
He was telling about the Golden Gate Bridge in San Fransisco, CA. He shared that what holds up the entire bridge are two pillars. Those two pillars are built on bedrock. In other words they dug down deep until they found solid ground to build these two pillars on.
Friend, what is your marriage built upon? If it is going to be successful in this dark day we live in your marriage (and mine) must be build upon solid bedrock. The only place you can find solid bedrock for marriage or anything else this day and age is in Jesus Christ. In the Scriptures He is called “the Rock”.
As a Pastor I have performed weddings. Before I will commit to do a wedding the parties wanting to get married must agree to and complete a few weeks of counseling. Why am I so strict? Because I understand that the world’s system is seeking to destroy the family and I want anyone I perform marriages for to at least have what they need to form a strong foundation upon which to build a marriage. If you and i are like the wise man Jesus spoke about in the New Testament we will build upon a rock. Not just any rock; but, upon The Rock, Jesus Christ.
This bridge works because it has flexibility. The bridge is built to have twenty feet (20′) of sway in each direction side to side. Concrete and steel will sway back and forth, up and down because it is build to be flexible. It is the same in our marriages. We must be flexible. Men and women are different in many ways. This is a gift from God. Think how boring life would be if we were all the same.
Once we understand how each person is wired (men and women) we can begin to understand them completely and it will make our marriages and relationships much better. Look at I Peter 3:7, “Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.”
What we need to do is follow the plan God has for marriage and we can enjoy fulfilling marriages that will last a lifetime. That is a gift from God.
So, how are you doing?