I have heard the sad phrase over and over in twenty plus years of ministry, “You cannot reason with him/her.” You might speak with my wife and receive a real life lesson on this subject.
There have been many times in my life that I have been less than reasonable, and I know it. There is nothing I can do about it now apart from making apologies and doing the best I can with God helping me to make it right and not repeat it.
This hardness of head is caused my various things. Maybe, it is due to one party being hard of hearing. You cannot reason with someone who will not hear you. There is a difference between listening and hearing. We can listen and get the gist of what we think the other person is saying. It is kind of like the person watching the television and the other person trying to talk to them at the same time. If you do not have their undivided attention then they are more than likely just listening and barely at that.
Now, to hear someone we must make eye contact. Remember, I am talking about hearing to the point of understanding. Now we are hitting pay dirt. If I am going to hear what someone is saying to me then I must block out the outside distractions and I have to focus on what they are saying. In the field of counseling I believe they call this “active listening”. I call it hearing.
The Word of God has some important words on the subject of hearing, listening and reasoning. Look at Isaiah 1:18, “Come now, and let us reason together, saith the LORD: though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool.”
Now, this is not bring your opinionated opinions and try to change God’s mind. Wrong! It is His offering to us the opportunity to come and be with Him and learn His ways. Our world today could stand to do this in depth. Turn off the comfort of noise and listen to Him and let Him convince you of the truth.
So, how are you doing?
I grew up on the farm which gave me many opportunities that kids today just do not get. I remember my uncle and I rented ground from an older man. He had many sheep. I was always fascinated by these sheep. I wish I knew then what I know now about sheep.
There was one thing. They did not care about me. I would repeatedly go out and try to call them in. Sometimes I would walk around with John (their owner) and pump water for them to drink. I loved to do this. These sheep came running when John was out there. When I was out there alone they went the other way.
The problem was they did not know my voice. They did not know me. I was a total stranger to them and they had enough sense to stay away from me. I know that sheep are not smart animals; but, in this case they had enough sense to keep away from me. I thought about Song of Solomon 2:8, “The voice of my beloved! behold, he cometh leaping upon the mountains, skipping upon the hills.”
“The voice of my beloved!” I love this phrase. Who are you listening to? You cannot be going here and there listening to various different voices because it will result in deep confusion. Cults are birthed out of confusion. The Bible tells us that God is not the author of confusion. So, why confuse yourself by going here, there and yonder getting counsel when everything you need is in God’s Word.
So, how are you doing?
We have all heard the story of the husband who wanted to take his wife to the doctor because he thought she was experiencing hearing loss. As the joke goes, it is he who has hearing loss. The husband asks, “Is dinner ready yet Honey?” The voice of an exasperated wife comes from the kitchen, “For the third time I said yes!”
Far too many people are not listening today. They hear their music devices of all kinds or whatever they want to; but, for the most part people do not listen for God to speak to them. Look at Matthew 2:3, “When Herod the king had heard these things, he was troubled, and all Jerusalem with him.” Notice the first phrase, “When Herod the king had heard these things;”.
What things had Herod the king heard? He had heard of the birth of Jesus the King. The problem is that he totally misunderstood the truth about Jesus. He saw Jesus as a Competitor. Herod feared that Jesus would gain a following that would overtake him and strip the kingdom from him.
Many people today are misunderstanding the true message of Jesus. Jesus came to save us from sin. He did not come to give us a list of do and don’t do. He came first to the Jews and after their rejection He came to the Gentiles (you and I). He came to deliver you and I from sin. Will you trust Him today? I wish you would.
So, how are you doing?