In my lifetime I have been hurt, offended and angered so many times that I cannot even begin to calculate the number. In life you must have pretty thick skin or you will not make it. When I worked in police, fire and EMS thick skin was definitely a requirement. Now, being in the ministry takes even thicker skin.
One problem with thick skin is that nothing penetrates it. That was profound I know. Think about it. I remember a time in my life that I was ashamed of my tears and I asked God to take them away. He took them away and I became the hardest and dry person you could meet. I soon begged for the tears back. Thankfully in God’s mercy He permitted them to come back and I have not done that again.
There is a delicate balance between being thick skinned and being just hardened. When you are so hard that you will not even listen to the Holy Spirit of the Living God then you are on dangerous ground. When one is thick skinned He will still listen for that still small voice; but, he will not allow anyone to get to him or her.
I am thinking about some dear friends that have hurt me deeply in the past. I do not think that they did it intentionally. If they did they are true hypocrites. I really don’t think they intended to insult my character and crush me deeply. As I pondered this situation I went to Psalm 55:12-13, “For it was not an enemy that reproached me; then I could have borne it: neither was it he that hated me that did magnify himself against me; then I would have hid myself from him: But it was thou, a man mine equal, my guide, and mine acquaintance.”
Now comes the really hard part. Do I allow my hardened condition (if one exists) to respond in hatred? Do I allow my thick skinned heart to forgive them and move on? Oh; by the way, if I respond in the love of Christ with forgiveness then I can move on and be useful to God. If not I will surely drown in bitterness and hate. That slough is no place for a Christian to be.
So, how are you doing?